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Common Causes of Divorce Save Your Marriage From Emotional Abuse

Monday, November 23rd, 2009

Is Your Marriage Suffering From Emotion Abuse? Save Your Marriage Now!

Think about it. As we drive down the street the car in front is driving a couple miles an hour slower than we are. Automatically we become frustrated. We call the driver all sorts of names and even call his ancestry into question. We seethe and fret and fume until we almost burst a blood vessel. And all of this because in our minds we are the perfect driver. And this idiot ought to get off of the road. Where did he get his drivers license anyway? Out of a Cracker Jack box?

Now let’s take it a bit closer to home. Have you ever been washing the dishes only to be told you did not know what you are doing? First you have to rinse them, then stack them, then fill the sink with just perfect water temperature. Then add this many squirts of Dawn. Nothing else will clean as well as Dawn, don’t you know? And don’t rinse them in hot water. Use cold water. Dummy. Don’t you know any thing?!! Sheesh!

Now I ask you. How many folks are washing dishes daily and have been for years? How many of them follow the exact formula your spouse laid out for you? NONE! That is right. A big fat Zero. And you know what? All of those dishes still get washed and none of those folks died because someone’s magic dish washing formula was not used.

If you are the one doing this sort of judging and controlling (it is actually emotional and psychological abuse), can you see how destructive this is to your marriage? How would you react to your spouse doing this? If you happen to be the one helping, how often will you continue to offer your services if you are abused in this way? Not many would be my guess.

Can you see how if you are guilty of this behavior why it could be a cause of divorce. I would just throw my hands in the air and tell you to do it your own self. And so will they, sooner or later. Probably sooner than later. It may have already happened and you wonder why they no longer help with chores.

Listen up. If this is happening in your marriage your marriage is in big Trouble. With a capitol T. You will soon harvest what you have been planting. And you have no one to blame but yourself. If you want a sure fire cause of divorce, just be this person.

A much better way and by far more productive, tell your helpful spouse what a great job they are doing and how much you appreciate their help. When you see how much they try to please you because you support their efforts, you will wonder why you never did it before.

One of the best descriptions I have found is, Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy; love is not boastful or vainglorious, nor does it display itself haughtily.

There’s enough causes of divorce in every marriage. Please, please, please do not demean each other and make them feel stupid and incompetent by treating like they are. Anyone can tear another down. Only a select rare few can truly build another up. Which on are you striving to be? What are you doing to save your marriage?

Remember, no one wants to be told they are stupid incompetents. Save your marriage today. Live and help live.

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Justin knows the agony of divorce and the incalculateble damage it causes. He writes for those hurting, those who want to save their marriage. Common Causes of Divorce Part 1 and marriage tips.
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Is There Hope to Save a Marriage and Stop a Divorce

Saturday, November 21st, 2009

There’s always hope to save a marriage even if only you want toThe problem with the advice you get from most marriage guidance councillors is that it involves effort from both you and your partner. This is ok if both of you want to repair the relationship and avoid breaking up but what if your partner isn’t interested in saving your marriage? You’re unlikely to get the results you are looking for if this is the case but what if I could show you some ways to get your ex back even if your ex doesn’t want to come back?Relationships are great in the beginning aren’t they?Relationships are often wonderful to start with. You are both fresh to each other and you’re still discovering how great it can be together. As time goes by however, you get used to each other and if you don’t keep doing new and exciting things to keep the interest levels up then there is a tendency for you to grow apart. Sooner or later one partner decides that they’ve had enough and leaves.Don’t make this very common mistakeIt’s often the case that one partner suddenly wakes up at this point and realizes what’s happened, realizes what’s been happening for months or maybe even years without even noticing. Panic sets in at the thought of losing your loved one and you start to plead with your soon-to-be ex to change their mind. You pour out your heart to her and promise that all sorts of things will change.Stop – You won’t save your marriage by pleadingThe last thing you should do is plead with your partner to change her mind because she won’t, in fact you’ll just make things worse. Don’t make promises that you can’t keep because she won’t believe you anyway. I know that it’s hard but you must take a step back from the situation and get on with your own life. Showing that you can live without her will actually draw her towards you. It’s strange I know but it’s true.Get a life – you might be surprised by what happensI remember a long time ago when my long-standing relationship was breaking up. We had drifted apart for many reasons and I’d tried very hard for a very long time to stop my partner from leaving. Nothing worked and I finally gave up when I realized that I’d be better off getting a life than trying desperately to hold on to one that was obviously going nowhere.What happened next surprised the life out of me. I stopped pleading and I told her that I’d accepted that it was all over and that we should go our separate ways. I thought that was what she wanted but was I wrong? Now it was me who was the bad guy! I was the one breaking up the relationship not her and she wanted to get it back.Is There Hope To Save A Marriage? You bet there is…I’m afraid things had gone too far for me at this point and my ex’s pleading simply pushed me further away but I can’t help wondering what would have happened had I known this secret a lot earlier. We might still be together and happily married. If you understand this secret you could stop your divorce and save your marriage.

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“Secrets Of Blissful Relationships“ Save Your Marriage With Romantic Rituals

Friday, November 20th, 2009

Save Your Marriage With Romantic Rituals

Justin Case http://magicofmakingupworks.com is happy to bring you another great article on how to save your marriage.

Are you trapped in a boring marriage? You can save your marriage from the deadly sin of boredom with just a little bit of effort. Not a lot, just a little.

What rituals have you established in your marriage to keep it young and fresh and exciting?

None? For shame on you. I know it is easy to fall into the rut of mediocrity in our relationships. Shame on us. This is the one place mediocrity has no place. We started these relationships because they were exciting and made us feel like a million bucks. (Hopefully that is not all green and wrinkled.) We have a duty to ourselves and our spouses to maintain an aura of excitement.

Rituals will keep you looking forward with anticipation for the next event, wondering what is going to happen, this time. It can be like Christmas, every time.

Do you suppose if rituals were initiated in your relationship things just might get spiced up a bit? Do you think perhaps a bit of old flame could be reignited in your love life?

How would you feel if your spouse started to make you feel like the most important part of their life? Do you think they would feel about the same way? If so, maybe you can explore a couple of things to pull the mold from the old jelly bottle and make for a more appetizing spread.

Call your spouse on the way to work right after you leave just tell them you miss them alreadyPut a love note under the pillow to found when they make the bedLeave a sexy note in the shower asking for save water date that nightMeet your spouse at a little cozy eatery for lunch once a week, same time same place, same stationGive you lover a jingle during the mid morning and mid afternoon to just say Hi. Establish a habit of one date a week. Dinner and move doesn’t count on this one. BORING! Go ice skating or go swinging (No, not that kind.) in the park. You get the ideaOne night a month hire a baby sitter if you need one. Find a nice club with nice music and dancing. End up in as nice a hotel as you can afford. Order room service in the morning.

When was the last time you kissed our spouse like when you dated? Been a while? Why not surprise them and do it again, often. Like every time you get home from work. Try it on for size when you meet in the hall way, going or coming.

How about a real nice secure hug from behind when your spouse is not looking? Don’t to forget to whisper how much love and appreciate them, and mean it for a change.

These kinds of rituals will go long way to putting some jazz into any marriage or relationship. Everyone wants to feel wanted and needed. Do your part and they will most certainly do theirs. And it will not take weeks or months to see a difference around the old homestead.

Think outside of the box. There are many more ideas for adding excitement for a more blissful relationship. Put for a little bit of effort now to save your marriage from the this deadly sin and it just might keep you out of the divorce courts.

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“Help Me Save My Marriage” Choose To Be In Love

Sunday, November 15th, 2009

Some wonderful thoughts about how you can be in love and save your marriage.

 

Some folks consider romantic love to be the cherry on top of the whipped cream of marriage. Pure dressing. It looks nice but it is not necessary. However, this author holds romantic love to be the crme de la crme of marriages. It not only looks good, it tastes good and it is necessary to have a thriving and robust marriage.

 

Despite the fact of what some well thinking folks may claim, I believe they inwardly desire for themselves the thrills of a romantic relationship.  Romantic love implies being in love.

 

What sane person would not want and long for a marriage filled with such amazing sensations?

 

People in love feel energized and confident. They feel like taking on the world and conquering it. People in love know and feel they are loved. People in love walk on clouds with a spring in their step.

 

If your’s is not a romantic marriage, don’t you envision being met at the door with sweet kisses while being held in strong loving arms and smiling eyes eager to consume you. Don’t you desire to be wanted so much you are missed before you leave? Does this not fill you with anticipation of returning home at the earliest possible moment? What person would think for one minute to delay their homecoming with such sweet bliss awaiting them?

 

Romantic love is great medicine for ridding maladies such as low self image and anxieties. This kind of love brings out our best. It makes us want to be our best, to become the best we can be. It is constructive in every sense of the word.

 

If your marriage in trouble it just might be missing romantic love. If it had romantic love in the beginning, where did it go? Why is it not here now? What has changed? Go back and find it now, where it is, whatever the cost. Put life back into yourself and your marriage.

 

Look at your spouse like you have not seen them months every time you look at them. Hold them like you will never let them go. Kiss them like you have been gone forever. Whisper you love them in their ear as you use to, and mean it.

 

Commitment to a person or the relationship does not equal giving this gift to your spouse every time you see them. Do you think they will not appreciate it? Do you think will think you daft when you do it the first time and second time and the third time? Probably. Do you think they will love you for it? They will.

 

And you know what the best part is, it will not be long until they are giving it all back to you many times over.

 

Don’t just exist in your marriage. Please. Please. Please. Do not just settle for what is. Do not  fall into the trap of dull and drab and mundane that contentment and mediocrity brings.

 

Save your marriage. Save your spouse. Save yourself. Try it. You will like it. I promise.

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How to Save a Marriage – Should a Couple Separate to Save Marriage?

Monday, November 2nd, 2009

Staying together didn’t help me save my marriageStaying together with your spouse for the sake of the children or just in the hope that your relationship gets better, rarely works if you’re trying to save your marriage and avoid divorce. Sooner or later you will most likely end up splitting up so is there another way that might be more effective?Everyone tells you that you should talk to your partner, listen to what they are telling you then change your behaviour to put right all of your faults. If both of you really work at doing this then your marriage will be solved right? Well probably not.What if your spouse doesn’t want to save your marriage?Conventional advice is only likely to work if both you and your partner really want to avoid divorce. Unfortunately this isn’t often the case. More often than not one of you wants to save the relationship but the other one just wants to get out as soon as they can. You can’t hope to work together towards a reconciliation under these circumstances because it simply won’t work.Pleading and promising to change isn’t going to work either because this just makes you look weak and needy and quite frankly, pathetic. All you will succeed in doing is pushing your partner away quicker than if you did nothing.How to save your marriage by having a good timeInstead of trying to push yourself onto your partner and killing your relationship by smothering it you could try separation instead. At first sight this sounds like an odd thing to do. How do you end up staying together by separating? Well believe it or not it can work and it might save your marriage even if your spouse doesn’t want it to.Separating does two things. Straight away your partner will start to realize exactly what she or he will be missing if your relationship ends. If you’ve always been a loving partner and good provider then these qualities in you will be missed immediately. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side is it?When your spouse sees you having a good time without her she may start to remember why you got together in the first place. This is where you have to concentrate on saving your marriage by just being yourself away from you spouse and make sure that she knows what you’re doing. The more she sees you enjoying yourself and not needing her the more attractive you will become to her. You might even find that your spouse starts trying to save your marriage all by herself, even if she didn’t want to in the first place.You don’t have to move outYou don’t actually need to be apart physically to have a separation. In fact it helps if you don’t because it will be easier for your spouse to see you being yourself. Tell your partner that you know that she wants a divorce and that you are going to start living your life the way you want to. Let her see you coming home late from the office and starting to date new people. You can even discuss your dates with her and ask her advice on how you can make a good impression. This is sure to get her thinking.The results from this strategy might surprise you. Lets face it, your marriage was going to end in divorce anyway right, so what have you got to lose? By showing your partner that you don’t need them you will be making yourself more attractive to them and maybe they will start to reconsider what it is that they really want.

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